Living with the Neurotypicals

Neurotypicals are fabulous people.  They make the world go round, or at least they make their own world go round. The Neurodiverse cling on bravely to the neurotypical whirlwind while the latter seem to be "getting things done" with their eyes shut.   Most of the time  diverse folk live secret lives but every now and then one  comes up with something so novel that they are set high on a pedestal.  One minute a hanger on, the next minute an international genius, neurodiverse folk  live a rollercoaster life.

There is no doubt that Neurotypicals and the Neurodiverse need each other but the problem is in how they should live together.  I liken the situation to bringing a deaf person and a blind person together and asking them to have a debate about the joys of sight and sound. The process of communication, explanation and comprehension needs to be ingenious but there is no reason why it can't happen.  The answer lies in mutual respect, trust and patience.

When you are able to see things that others cannot even comprehend then it can be desperately frustrating. It is a lonely journey, reproducing a vision in a form which can be appreciated.  When a diverse person gains the trust of the ordinary world and finally gets support for their project, amazing things can happen.  Writers, artists and musicians have the benefit of having found an outlet for their diverse thought patterns, however many neurodiverse folk are locked in a neural tornado.  With no relief valve the mind builds like a pressure cooker threatening to explode. 

Many diverse people rely on their partners for outlet but this can cause many relationship problems.  Neurotypical partners may be able to make things happen but never with the same purity of thought.  The result may suit mass society but it rarely satisfies the neurodiverse mind.    NT-ND partners must have a mutual set of vows such as:  "Its alright to be you"; "I understand what your role is"; "I have faith in you";  "You're way is strange, but let's give it a go".

Worthy neurotypical partners are courageous souls.  They walk blindly through your beautiful diverse world whilst they hear sharply in their typical habitat: whilst beyond the beauty all you hear is noise.   It takes persistence and love to walk the path together hand in hand, but above all it takes respect, faith and forgiveness.